Venus and Pluto: aspect cards

Venus conjunct Pluto makes what you like intense and deeper than an ordinary relationship. You are rarely satisfied with surface bonds, want truth between you and are sometimes drawn so strongly that it is hard to hold yourself back. Important relationships often change how you see yourself. The things to watch are jealousy, a wish to possess and measuring power against each other.

• You bond with devotion and do not do relationships by halves.
• You see people's hidden motives deeply and directly.
• Serious relationships help you grow and change yourself.

• You may be jealous or want to know everything about the other person until they feel crowded.
• You may test love by pulling away or setting up power conditions.

A friend of your partner texts them often, and you feel a knot of unease and want to ask to see their phone. You stop before you speak and tell them instead that you are afraid of being left. They are surprised by how directly you said it, but they come closer and explain what the messages are about.

Tell your partner your fear instead of controlling them, and the bond can be deep without being tight.

When Venus is in harmony with Pluto, your deep bonding runs steadily. You have a charm worth discovering, love quietly but firmly and handle the changes a relationship brings. You read sincerity in people quickly, and once you trust someone you give fully and stay put. The thing to watch is keeping feelings so deep that the other person cannot reach them, which can look like distance.

• You bond steadily and quietly, without needing many words to prove it.
• You get through the transitions of a relationship without panic.
• You read sincerity quickly, so you tend to choose trustworthy people.

• You keep feelings so deep that your partner does not know what you think.
• You may wait too long for someone to prove themselves, and end up a step late.

You and your partner have been together two years with no big upsets, but they say they sometimes do not know what you are thinking. Talking about your inner life is not your habit, but you try telling them what you think about when they are away. They smile and say that is exactly what they wanted to know.

Share what you feel inside now and then, and closeness grows without costing you privacy.

When Venus challenges Pluto, love gets drawn into power, jealousy and fear of being left. You may be so absorbed that letting go is hard, control a partner in the name of love, or attract someone who dominates you. A relationship sometimes ends hard but teaches a deep lesson. The upside is that you love with devotion and really can change. When you notice whether you are loving or wanting to possess, love lightens.

• You commit to a relationship seriously and do not drop people easily.
• You dare to face uncomfortable truths in a relationship.
• You can change yourself for real after heavy experiences.

• You may control or set power conditions and call it love.
• Fear of being left can make you hold on so tightly that the other person feels crowded.

Your partner is going away with friends for three days. You nod, but inside you feel tight and message them every hour. On the second night you ask yourself whether you are missing them or afraid of losing them. You choose to tell them plainly how you feel and ask only for one message a day.

Tell apart loving from fearing loss, and choose to speak plainly instead of controlling.